D'sac101 Segment: The Vertebrate Man

Women, ladies... Complicated species. Men often overlook the fact that women are to some extent vulnerable beings who need a man that's in charge. The often given answers by ladies such as "I don't know, what do you think?" don't necessarily mean they literally don't know. They usually have an answer already but what they mean to communicate is step up, make the decision and be the man. Ladies don't want a man that has no agenda; one that will dilly dally during every decision making process.

Most men nowadays miss it by trying to be a "gentleman" hence losing their "backbone". As much as you need to be a gentleman, that lady wants a man in charge; son of a gun; a man with a plan; the real deal kind of guy. Not some boneless man who will flex for whatever she's good with and forget his morals and principles just to fit into her life! They want a man that will sometimes stand out and say, "No honey, am not good with that. I don't like it". These are words that are scarce in the mouths of many young men these days. We often lose that good looking pretty fine shaped woman to some "rude boy" kind of man. And often wonder how he stole her heart???

Being a gentleman doesn't mean you always have to let the lady take first step in the decision making process or being a "yes ma'am" kind of man. Being a gentleman may partly mean being mature enough to see things beyond, knowing when its your shot and when its the lady's. Being a gentleman will sometimes make you look like a slave, its normal. I mean you'll have to open that door for her, pull out that seat for her, open and pour out her drink, get her some chocolate, a rose or something frequently...

Its not wrong to ask for her opinion and agree on certain things but always have an opinion! Don't be a dictator either... That'll scare the little bird away. Most men fail to balance up these two features, its either they'll be to strong on the ladies or be a puppet while the lady pulls the strings.

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